Video: Year For Fears: Singing Karaoke

After I schooled Marlon on how to approach a sinewy latino, we headed to the gay sports bar. And there it was… the stage, the mic, the song selections on the table. Marlon had revenge in mind, and I was the target. I have a fear of singing karaoke.

It’s not really a fear. It’s just a case of over-thinking a predetermined situation. The end result is I just back out of the opportunity. One of my chicken list items from the Year For Fears is singing karaoke. Here’s my thought process on karaoke: Karaoke is supposed to be fun and silly. Anytime I am behind a mic, I perform and give it my all. When it comes to karaoke, I always figured I’d freeze up and do what I do best: belt and be emotive and seriously sing my heart to a very confused crowd (“Uh I don’t remember paying for a concert!”).

However, as you can see from the video that didn’t happen. It was so much fun to be silly and chill. And hey, it was still a performance. Now that I’m on the other side of the mic, if you will, I see that performing karaoke actually takes the edge off. Having fun is something that I should infuse with my real performances. Seriously, “Why so serious?”

One less fear in the Year of Voices. :]

How to Pick Up Sinewy Latinos

I was on my way home from hanging out in Dallas that evening when I called up my friend, Marlon and we ventured into the Gayborhood for a drink (of course, a water for me). It was definitely a night for testing our courage. We went out to the local gay cowboy club and watched people dance on the floor: a “queen of the night” Doc Brown type, a few Joes, and a rather dashing, sinewy Latin guy who caught Marlon’s eye. I could see why! Triple rhyme not intended. He was very handsome and he could really move. Yes, he was sexy. He was a man. But was he Marlon’s man? I hastened Marlon to go talk to him. Why not! He wouldn’t budge. Sinewy Latin Guy (or SLG henceforth) left with his friend. We hopped from club to club and they all were dead — on a Sunday night! That used to not be.

After buzzing around, we landed at the older man/leather daddy club, which didn’t have much of either or anyone for that matter, except for SLG! Again, I tried to get Marlon to talk to him, but no go. Meanwhile, a really old cowboy from the gogo boy bar down the street was eye-ing me (and I was very much looking in the other direction). Guh! After the Old Cowboy realized I was not interested, he passed on; probably to another club looking for another young thing. — It was the hoodie. I swear it makes me look college-aged. Is 25 considered college-aged? [brushes thought away]

So Marlon and SLG didn’t seem to be happening. Marlon was ready to go, so I suggested we go in the direction of the SLG first. I was going to show him how to approach someone. All I did was go up to SLG and his friend, and said first to SLG that he danced really good at the cowboy bar. He and his friend were embarrassed. It was really cute. I wished them both a good night and that was that. I could have carried on the conversation, but I just wanted to show Marlon that he was just like anybody else.

I’ve been there: See a cute guy who makes you feel all gooey and warm inside (and outside, okrrr). I’ve also been really chicken about approaching a cute guy. To some extent I still am, but that’s for another blog post. Cute, beautiful, gorgeous or not, homeboy (or homegirl) is like everybody else. He poops in a toilet (hopefully), he brushes his teeth (hopefully), and he has bills to pay (unless he lives with his parents). He’s just like you. Don’t think of yourself as less. Say hi.

Video: Obama, Let’s Stay Together


Retake

With all the issues and deficits he was given, I think he’s done a great job. Change didn’t happen as fast as many would’ve liked but change is happening. I think a lot of people think, “He’s the president. He can change things at the drop of a dime.” No, that’s a dictator. Our country is democracy, meaning there are many voices and opinions that go into a decision, bill, or law.

Do Something Crazy Every Month: January

Part of the many resolutions for 2012 was to do something crazy every month.

I was just thinking last night that I need a new adventure. I want to go somewhere. As if backpacking all around Costa Rica and subwaying around New York just weeks ago weren’t enough excitement. After waking up brazened and naked in the office of my mom’s spare home in the sunny afternoon, I logged onto my magic 8-ball: Twitter.

And it was there that my blogging friends gave me a BiSCuit of an idea:

The website looked kickass, the pictures of happy blogger frollicking around looked kickass. However, I saw the price tag of $500 and I thought, “Oh boy, how am I going to pay for this?” So I looked at my bank account knowing I only had $2 in it just yesterday and the $200 deposit had barely been processed. But to my surprise the cash I had been hoping for for a couple of weeks now, showed up today!

It was a sign, and I immediately registered for one of the last 4 spots on the Bloggers in Sin City unconference. I normally wouldn’t invest in something like this on a whim, but like Linda’s friend Kim said:

“… It’s for a ONCE IN A LIFETIME EXPERIENCE. It will be worth it. Think of all the new friends and memories you’ll make!”

And I’m also hoping the BiSC for Free giveaway sponsored by paperdapp.com comes my way!

With that said, I am effing going to Vegas in May!

Moral of the story: I should sleep naked more often. It’s good luck.

Wine and Love #8

Wine and Love is a list of things lately that has made me want to turn to drinking and things that have made me fall deeper in love with life. Thanks to Walking With Nora for starting this weekly series.

Wine

  • I am completely losing focus on what I set out to do. I thought, “Oh if I allow just a little leniency, I’ll be okay.” No. I don’t slip a little; I slip a lot. For instance, I haven’t worked out in over a week. Unacceptable. Even the reward of a BJ’s pizookie will not do.
  • I have had the hiccups for the past 2 or 3 days. I’ve tried everything to get rid of them, and I’m beginning to worry. If it continues tomorrow, then I’m going to the doctor. They seem to go away when I’m into a conversation or distracted.

Love

  • I am working out today. No excuses. Not even a car wreck will keep from working out. In the event of that happening, I’ll work out my pinky.
  • I made dinner tonight. *I* made dinner. Whoa. Could this be the beginning of a Treavor that cooks?

The Current Life #4

I like how the beginning of the Year of Voices has started off relatively quiet. That’s because I’ve been doing a lot lately. See:

  • I joined a gym and I worked out twice this week. I hurt for 3 days. It was awesome!
  • Registration, please: I’m in-between vehicles so that means double the registration woes. Luckily, I’m not going to register Neona (my Dodge Neon) since I’m no longer driving her anymore. And since the current car I’m driving is still owned by it’s soon-to-be previous owner (my mom), I didn’t have to pay for it. So I guess no woes!
  • Super compatible on Last.fm! Last night, I hung out with someone I have needed to meet ever since my old roommate Carl moved out years ago: my new music friend, Matthew! Do you know how hard it is to find people who like the same music as you? We saw the Starfucker show at the Prophet Bar in Dallas last night. They were great, but I really miss Ryan Biornstad’s dancing. *swoon* Anyway, what’s strangely cool about Matthew is that he’s from Portland, and I’m moving to Portland! So he’s been giving the dibs and facts on life there. Also, I’ve been out of whack with music lately so he made me a really cool mix, which I instantly started dancing to. New bff? I’m thinking so. :]
  • Oh yeah, I’m moving to Portland. Surprise? I’ve always wanted to live there, so I figured why wait. I’ve been researching schools in Portland, and I’m hoping to attend and move in the fall. *crossing fingers* I don’t usually like to admit my plans beforehand because they never happen, but I think that’s dumb so I’m sharing. I will be studying psychology and brushing up on my Spanish and Italian. And maybe finding a way into the coffee world. I’m sure living in Portland will help. :)
  • I got back from New York last week, which of course was magical and romantic as always. Not as gross as the first time I visited, but I think the subway’s always supposed to smell like vomit for first-time visitors. :D I visited my second-favorite place on earth, Bryant Park, for New Year’s Eve and got to watch the NYE ball drop. I solo-rode the subway for the first time with help from my new friend KSep and visited Brooklyn for the first time, too. There, I met up with talented designer and fellow Dr Pepper lush, Daniel, who welcomed me with some copious amounts of DP and Pies and Thighs (yuuuuum!). And! he showed me this really beautiful, breathtaking view of New York from his flat’s rooftop. I could’ve stayed there for a long time, but it was beyond freezing (well for me, a Texan). He graciously sent me a few shots. Thank you, Daniel!

    New York from Brooklyn, courtesy of Daniel C Wiggins

  • When I got back from New York, I met up with two of my favorite people. Marlon, who is planning a great shift this year. I wish him all the best. I know he can do it! I had dinner with Chelsey at Dream Cafe, which truly is a dream cafe. The owner brought us complimentary glasses of wine and let me sample moscato (*my* wine). Chelsey’s going through a shift in her life as well with health issues and undergoing treatment for them. I have no doubt she’ll sail through this year with no problems. They’re both amazing and talented people, each with great character. I learn so much from them.

That’s the majority of what’s been happening. I’ve also been opening up to more freelance opportunities and doing cool stuff around the house. Some days I get really inspired to do this and that, such as today. I hadn’t eaten anything, but I guess I’m operating on reserve energy from the past few days. I got out and replaced the dead bulbs in the front yard lights. This sounds like not a big deal, but it looks like a big deal. I’ll show you later.

My sister came back from the country with a couple of Christmas presents from family for me, so I wrote thank-you letters today! And of course, I wrote about Costa Rica today as well. I’ve still got more to write about, so stay tuned! I truly recommend you visit Costa Rica soon. It’s so beautiful; and New York as well. I couldn’t have ended 2011 and started 2012 with better places and experiences. This year is set to be quite an adventure!

What have you been up to?

My Explorer’s Gear: Costa Rica


This post is 2 of 2 about my trip to Costa Rica. In my previous post about Exploring Costa Rica, I highlighted what to expect of the Costa Rican culture and also tidbits about exploring Costa Rica.

Before Costa Rica, I had only explored the United States (domestic traveling). I figured exploring internationally would prove to be a bit more tricky and expansive, so I searched online for a list of items I should take with me. Some lists were helpful, some lists were confusing. Some were by older women, some were by middle-aged men. What I found is that the necessary items to take are different for everyone. Instead of giving you a list of what to take on your journey to Costa Rica (or anywhere), here’s a peek at what I took and what I ended up not needing to take, and probably too much information on the reasons why I took them.

Explorer’s Gear

  • Passport!
  • Boarding passes — My printer ended up failing. Passes are not necessary since you can print them at the airport, but I like to be ready when I get there.
  • Folder for important documents — Mine is red for importance (I’m prepared, and I don’t play around. :D ).
  • Wallet with
    • driver’s license,
    • credit card,
    • debit card, (I hate using my credit card, but I’m not rich. When I hit my limit, I used my CC.)
    • $80 ($80 is more than enough, see Exploring Costa Rica on traveling with money)
  • TETON Sports Scout3400 Internal Frame Backpack (Mecca Orange)
  • JanSport® ordinary backpack (carried my laptop, SLR camera, notebooks, pens, snacks for long bus rides, etc)
  • 15″ MacBook Pro and extension cord
  • HTC Incredible smart phone (a substitute for my bulky SLR, takes great photos and videos, eventually I lost it on a bus in Puntarenas, so at least backup often) and USB cord for charging
  • Canon Rebel XSi SLR (did not bring battery charger and was fine)
  • Canon Rebel XSi SLR USB cord (for emptying)
  • Flip Mino HD video camera (comes with USB so need for a cord)
  • Incase® charger (I use it for most anything that can be charged via USB)
  • Notebook
  • Pen, pencil, and Sharpie® marker
  • iPod and earphones (soundtrack! and I took notes with the Notes app)
  • Sunglasses
  • Nintendo DS XL, charger, and game cartridges (for the plane)
  • Amazon Kindle for Mac, A Tale of Two Cities from Amazon.com (for when I got bored; needless to say I didn’t read a letter of …Two Cities)

Notes:

  • Charge all of your electronic devices before traveling and often afterwards. Also, keep track of them too. I lost my precious HTC Incredible phone and had to buy a new one when I got back to the States. $$$
  • “Why did you bring your computer?” I got asked this by a rude Quebecois woman in Jaco. I took my computer because I needed to empty my cameras. My Flip Mino HD only holds 60 minutes worth of footage, and it proved helpful to bring my computer when booking hostel reservations and Skyping. Sure you could reserve ahead of time, but I like to travel by the wind, which is as costly as having to lug around a computer and extra bag for said computer.
  • Carrying both bags proved a bit difficult. I learned a trick from other travelers to wear my regular backpack on my chest and my hiking backpack on my back. It was ok for a while but my upper body eventually got tired. The less luggage as possible is best. I’d try to restrict myself to a small handbag, or shoulder bag, and a (hiking) backpack (or a bag that you can wear *and* pull with wheels) if you can.

Survival Items — Outdoor, Cosmetic, Hygienic, Medicinal

  • Small first aid kit by Johnson and Johnson (I always and will always take this with me on trips. Luckily, I’ve never had to use it.)
  • Coleman® bio-wipes — Better than carrying around rolls of toilet paper or napkins.
  • Potable Aqua® chlorine dioxide water purification tablets *
  • Hairbrush
  • Toothbrush
  • Travel-sized toothpaste
  • Travel-sized deodorant
  • Travel-sized body wash (2)
  • Travel-sized shampoo
  • Travel-sized face wash (2)
  • Travel-sized Purell Instant Hand Sanitizer
  • Allergy medicine (I have bad allergies sometimes.) *
    • Benadryl® to knock me out/help me sleep
    • Sudafed® to dry me out
    • Nyquil® to super-knock me out at night
    • Dayquil® to super-knock me out day
  • Vitamins
  • Ibuprofen
  • Coleman® 100 Max Insect Repellent Unscented Spray (contains DEET, almost looks like a pen)
  • Coleman® Botanical Insect Repellent DEET Free Spray
  • A shower towel (just in case the hostels didn’t offer or have any)
  • beach towel *
  • Tweezers
  • Lots of trail mix (survival food)
    • Dried apples
    • Indulgence trail mix from Walmart (so good)
    • Tropical trail mix from Walmart *

Note: I put my travel-sized items in a plastic zip-locked sandwich bag for leakage purposes. I did the same for my pills.

Clothing

This was hard for me because I like to be prepared in all situations, but I had to make what I could take work the most.

  • My lightweight hoodie — for reasons of the rain (hood) and the warm climate (lightweight)
  • 5 pairs of underwear — risky, but I went commando one day and flipped one pair inside out on another day
  • 2 long-sleeve shirts — for the mosquitoes (I still ended up with bites but less bites than I would’ve if I hadn’t brought these)
  • 5 t-shirts
  • 2 pairs of jeans
  • 1 pair of shorts
  • 1 pair of basketball shorts (for sleeping)
  • 3 pairs of ankle socks
  • 1 pair of sneakers (for casual, everyday) — If I had comfortable hiking boots, I would’ve substituted these.
  • 1 pair of running shoes (for hiking or running) — I did not have hiking boots.
  • 1 pair of flip-flops (for boarding planes and showers)
  • 1 pair of swimming board shorts
  • 1 pair of Speedo® trunks (just in case I felt confident enough to wear them, which I did but under the swimming trunks for support :P )
  • 1 belt

What I wish I would have brought: umbrella or poncho, comfortable hiking boots, my manicure/pedicure set (nail clippers, especially)

What I brought back: Everything but my HTC Incredible smart phone, my first stamp in my passport, 3 bottles of American soda as souvenirs, a more open mind, and a bigger smile

* These items were not used.

Now that you have an idea on what you should take to Costa Rica and have the deets on exploring Costa Rica, be sure to check out my photos from my Costa Rica trip, stay tuned for the video, and be sure to check out for my thoughts about the trip later here on treavioli.com.

So, what are you taking on your trip, Explorer?

Exploring Costa Rica


This post is 1 of 2 about my trip to Costa Rica.

Backpacking and exploring Costa Rica was so much fun. In this post I’ll break down all the goods and bads to help you plan your trip to Costa Rica. ¡Pura vida!

The People

Ticos, native Costa Ricans, are really nice. That’s all. Actually, the locals say “¡Pura vida!” a lot, which roughly means “pure life” or “life is good” but can also mean “No sweat/It’s all good/No worries” or “That’s cool” or “That’s what’s up.”

The Food

Passion Fruit Chicken from Morphos in Santa Elena, Monteverde, Costa Rica

There wasn’t a lot outrageous cuisine, and naturally I kept comparing Costa Rican food with Mexican and Tex-Mex. I didn’t realize how much liked spicy food. With that said, I still loved exploring the tropical-inspired dishes.

Also, if you’re ever in Santa Elena, check out Restaurante Morphos. It’s beautiful and the food is good. Also, the waiters are cute.

Money/Currency

It would be great to have a few bills on you but not too much. The money is easily exchangeable. It’s not necessary to exchange your money given most places/vendors will take your credit/debit card (alert bank of travel first).

If you do want to exchange your money to colones, look for a Banco Nacional, as they have a cheaper rate of exchange than the airport.

If you know Spanish, be sure to brush up on your numbers. On one occasion, a hostel keeper actually pulled the colones out of our hands for us (we checked to make sure she got what was asked). Like I said Ticos are nice, but be careful.

English vs Spanish

If you have time, brush up on your basic Spanish. It is not entirely necessary since the majority of Ticos know good-enough English. I am fluent in Spanish but don’t use the language nor practice nor hear it on a daily basis. I did okay but glad I was with someone who knew the language inside-out. He was able to get us great deals and haggle a bit. Any Costa Rican that heard us speak Spanish was fascinated and wanted to speak more. I totally put the kibosh on that right away: Yo hablo español un poquito. And they got me. With that said, they get tons of people who know English only.

If you know Spanish, fantastic. If you don’t, that’s okay. Give yourself time to figure out bus schedules, tour times, etc. They don’t have an organized system like a lot of countries, so you have to ask around.

Transportation

Bus schedules — Some buses happen every hour, some happen every 3 hours, so give yourself time to sort it out. Don’t rush and make a snap decision or you’ll end up in the middle of Puntarenas. ;] What we did the majority of the time was ask the front desk at the hostels we were staying.

Taxis — They’re all around in the city. Not crazy expensive but you could definitely save some change by hoofing it or bussing it. Also, they drive crazier than New York cabs. It’s fun!

Note: Stop signs in Costa Rica are like Texas speed limits — mere suggestions. ;]

Hostels

We used hostelworld.com to search for hostels in the cities we would be staying. Using hostelworld.com’s rating system helped us determine the better hostels. We would call them via Skype (make sure to buy credit) to make the reservations. Websites aren’t always updated with the latest availability. Many times we would see that the private room wasn’t available, but we’d call and they have plenty availability. Don’t book online (also it’s cheaper). I really wanted to use airbnb.com, but hostelworld had all the cheap places. Most of them range from about $7 – $14 / night. Here’s a list of hostels we both enjoyed and tolerated with my own personal rating (not hostelworld’s):

Check out a backpacker’s view of the hostels.

Bekuo Hostel, San Jose — Rating: 3.5/5

The first hostel I’ve ever stayed in and it was what I expected and more. I expected to be in a room full of strangers and there to be a little funkyness, but I didn’t expect there to be breakfast in the morning and decent wifi. The shower was not a 3-star hotel shower, but it was usable… despite the big-winged gnats swarming around it. The bed I stayed in had a mattress dipped in and you could actually feel the support board poke up. But for some reason it fit my body just right! It was a really chill experience for my first time at a hostel, and I’d actually stay there again.

Arenal Hostel Resort, La Fortuna — Rating: 4.5/5

Pretty nice. Outdoor kitchen, beautifully attended, the beds were nice, the showers were nice, laundry facility, and the staff was super nice. You’d be crazy not to stay here when you visit La Fortuna.

Monteverde Backpackers — Rating: 3/5

We stayed in the bunk room. Esteban, at the front desk, was super nice, helpful, gorgeous, and accommodating. The bathroom was a little on the :\ side (take shower shoes!). Also, it was a little rough trying to sleep. You can hear *everything* going on upstairs, and I mean everything. *sex face*

I didn’t get a lot of photos of this hostel, but I did get some video footage, which I am editing. Be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel.

Jaco Inn, Jaco — Rating: 3/5

Sexy dark wood and painted nudes make this a nice get away for couples. Be sure to get the private room for a good view of the rooftop iguanas. Open kitchen, nice patio, the staff was really nice. The shower was between schmeh and good (the water was cold). The wifi didn’t work at all, but they do have a community computer. Overall, it was a nice stay.

National Park Backpackers, Manuel Antonio — Rating: 3.5/5

American-owned. Despite seeing the photos online, it wasn’t exactly what I thought it was going to be, but it was still pretty good, despite the office staff was kind of gruff. They need to work on the private rooms a little more — a coat of paint will take away that sanitarium feel. Also, not more than 5 minutes of arrival, the barkeep/DJ came to liven things up. He was obviously gay and it was awesome. It felt like home. They also play movies and music videos into the night (not all night ;) ). Bring your own towel or pay.

Gaudy’s Backpacker Hostel, San Jose — Rating: 4.5/5

A great end to my Costa Rican hostel experience. Decent shower, great staff, great common areas (there’s even a hammock!), best wifi experience at a hostel, shuttle to the airport was fantastic. Great great great. Snag the private room.

Things to Be Cautious of But Not Freak Out About

Robbery — This is a given anywhere you go. Keep your wallets in your front pocket. Don’t keep all your valuables in one place (a la a purse or backpack) when going out. I never had a problem, but that doesn’t mean you won’t.

Yellow fever (minor case in the province of Limon) — I was super prepared for the mosquitoes, but alas they got me anyway. We noticed that they like to strike near joints (the elbow, the wrist). I don’t know why this is. I never had any problems with constipation (TMI?), even after I left Costa Rica. In fact, I was uncharacteristically regularly. With that said, the food is good. I took hand sprays with DEET, which worked good when I bothered to put them on. I also wore long sleeves and jeans most of the time.

Potable water — I was deeply concerned about this, but it wasn’t necessary. Using your best judgment helps, but alas, the majority of the places in Costa Rica have “good enough” water. There’s also plenty of vendors that sell water in bottles, so you can either bring your own like I did (don’t forget to check in that bag) or buy them when you get into the country, which I also did. I read somewhere that in the rural areas, the water is not potable. Be careful and keep your mouth closed in the shower.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask. There was so much to jampack in one entry, so I may have forgotten things. ¡Pura vida!

Check out my photos from my Costa Rica trip.